Gentle Revolution – Doman's Legacy

Changes

We are currently undergoing great changes in the family. For that reason I somehow cannot make myself do much Doman. That’s probably the main reason I write here so seldom…

I’ll come back here once my life is stable again.

Doman hurts?

I wonder – why would someone claim something as preposterous as that – Doman harms/ is deleterious (for??) – whatever. What can be bad about a loving relation with one’s children, showing them a world in one way or another, one that teaches them important and useful facts? One that makes children want more? It must be something else than just Doman himself. Is it trying to rationalize one’s reluctance or laziness? “I didn’t do it therefore it must be bad” – kind of logic?

Or – anybody who gets enthusiastic about it becomes a fanatic; even more so, when there is someone we tend to call a purist – someone who knows how things are done (no matter what we’re talking about, be it Doman, Montessori or baking bread) – these are treated the worst it seems. Why? What’s wrong with the world? Why do people wish other to be mediocre, or at least worse then them? Just a human trait?

Anyway, I’m at life’s crossroads – in a sense. A positive sense really. Nonetheless, I’m taking a break with Doman now, kids too. That’s not forever though.

But I’m sure not to join this absurd anti-Doman cult, not even if I stopped doing Doman with my kids. Simply because I know better.

Frequency

Here’s an important (from my perspective) thing. Even if you are not or cannot be beautifully consistent, your children will still profit from “doing Doman”. And they remember things. I get to be reminded of it more and more often. My four year old gets bored for some reason and I hear – mommy why don’t we do presentations! I say I can’t do it now, but allow him to go and watch whatever he wishes (of course meaning pps, not just everything there is on the computer or in the net). Besides, he is straightforward, when he says what he wants, that’s exactly what he means.

And off he went, searched for the right folder and started doing… additions. Really, for kids – not for adults – math rightly done is great fun! My youngest, now 9 months old, likes math the best. I mean it. When she watches, say, 10 beautiful flowers in a row she gets bored towards the end – unlike my mid-kid, a girl who loves everything that’s pretty. My youngest prefers addition, division, subtraction and multiplication equations…

And as for frequency, sometimes we miss Doman for a day, or two. Sometimes a bit longer. Not all days are alike. Most of the times we do just one session. On better days – two or three. And then my son, as he is the most talkative of the three obviously – says out of the blue: gurami mozaikowy, which is the name of a fish in Polish (our language). And that’s not just one name – he recollects the various things he learned or even watched himself. He reads quite fluently now, so he reads more willingly too. And now he got interested in books even more.

But, he is self-taught. I didn’t do any Doman with him when he was learning to read – that’s just a happy coincidence for now – because he can do the encyclopedic knowledge himself.

A new phase

My oldest child, at first the least interested in Doman, by which I understand – reading, math, languages, encyclopedic knowledge; now begs for presentation every day. And wants to go through them himself. I let him since that is what he wants. Of course then it’s not as fast as it should be. But he READS the words himself and then sees the picture, so I guess that’s fine 🙂
I love the effects it brings. He’s so happy to get to know new things. He always asks for more – for new things too.
And his sisters are similarly more and more interested, though not at this level.
Though the baby just LOVES the red dots. Particularly equations. Isn’t this amazing!? I wouldn’t have guessed without Doman telling me that in his books…

Kids teach kids


The time has come 😉 My oldest child begs me to give him words so that he can show them to his sisters. I love watching that.

Again, I varied Doman method, but I suppose it’s still very much Doman. We make Power Point presentations with whatever we think is worth knowing or interesting. Sometimes it’s just something that came up suddenly. Like the previous week – mushrooms. My son, 4yr old, took part in a competition for children where he was supposed to enumerate some edible mushrooms. Well, he knew NONE. He knew only fly agaric. Surprise…

He knew a number o flowers with proper names etc. But well, nobody asked him THAT. So when he came home with grandma, I had the presentation ready.

Our children love those presentations, they like pictures very much, but they wouldn’t be fun at all, I can tell, if I didn’t tell them WHAT I’m showing them!

Presently we covered types of clouds. And my son looks out of the window and asks me daily – “Mommy, are these stratus again?”

It’s lots of fun for us too. My husband made for them a PPT with types of music (picture, word, sound) – amazing! They wanted to dance immediately.

Really, it’s not what somebody might think – INSTRUCTION patterned after school. Not at all. It’s words and pictures and FUN 🙂

Variations

When I started Doman method, which I usually call just “Doman”, I started in a traditional, book-prescribed way – with flashcards and huge red words on them. Somehow it didn’t work well for the older kids (2, 4). I got the attention of the baby only.

I switched to computer based presentation. PowerPoint turned out a blessing. Never in my life I used so much of the program or search for so many accurate pictures. It wasn’t an immediate success. But with some pauses I did get their attention. They love different things – the baby and the oldest like math (red dots) very much. The middle girls likes pdf books best (I make them myself).

But it was yesterday that I saw how much they actually like what we’re doing. I have used flashcards again. Anti-Doman way (in a sense) – not 5 at a time, but all I had – in a row… And they didn’t go away, the youngest sometimes turned away, the toddler seemed distracted, but I did it for the oldest mostly and he never wanted to stop (70 cards). And after we finished he wanted more.

Yesterday I made more flashcards (around 30). All brand new. Some in English. Some with Italian words added to English/Polish combo. And a number of orders, such as “turn around!”. They loved it! My son (the oldest) shouted MORE, MORE a few times and was disappointed it was over. My toddler surprised me the most – she went into a tantrum and cried that it’s over.

Now, nobody will ever convince me that kids don’t like learning. It just has to be done right.

 

As for the title – I meant variations between the computer and flashcards. That’s what made it work in our case. Now I use both ways.